The Terror and Privilege of Mourning

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Leonard Cohen is dead.  Long live Leonard Cohen.

Letting go of a person whose words and music have touched us at the deepest  soul level is one of the most difficult tasks human beings face.  Love, irony, beauty, self deception, horror, and . . . , always . . . , truth . . . , these themes place Leonard Cohen’s work in the highest order of the arts.  As poet, novelist, singer, songwriter, musician, monk, and of course – ladies’ man –  (I smile at his ironies as i write this last), for more than five decades he wooed us to the gates of enlightenment with his earthy wisdom, his “golden voice,” and his unshakable compassion for our wayward ways.

Leonard Cohen is dead.  Long live Leonard Cohen.

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Self Care during Challenging Times

This entry was posted in Adverse Childhood Experiences/ACEs, Authenticity, Body Awareness, EFT, Energy Hygiene, Resilience, Resistance, Self Care, Tapping, Tim Anderson Three-Minute Reset, Trauma on by .

 

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With polarizing influences screeching in our ears like nails on a blackboard, it is easy to be caught up in the drama and forget to turn off our devices and sit in silence as we invite the natural rhythms of the world to bring us back to centre.  One of the most effective techniques for building resilience in the long term and self regulating in the moment is to step outside onto a grassy patch, focus on a tree, and simply offer our appreciation for its being present to us.  Resilience and self regulation are the secret to joyful longevity, loving and respectful relationships, and successful, sustainable business enterprises.  Tapping to clear all resistance to daily resilience and self regulation practices helps us to develop nourishing self-care practices that ensure positive experiences in the moment and positive experiences over time.

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ACEs, Paper Tigers, Resilience, and Thanksgiving

This entry was posted in Adverse Childhood Experiences/ACEs, Paper Tigers Documentary, Tapping for Love and Optimism, Thanksgiving on by .

 

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We are all, in one way or another, involved in the struggle to offer kindness, love, and understanding to ourselves and the larger world.  This is easy to forget in these media-saturated times where focus on the least admirable human traits influences almost every radio, television, and internet story line. My search for stories documenting human compassion and positive agency has led me to Adverse Childhood Experience studies (ACEs) which statistically document how early childhood trauma is a predictor of later chronic disease including autoimmune and mental health disorders.  But all is not lost, for coupled with these bleak health studies are numerous stories documenting the resurgence of resilience as even the most traumatized of children and adults relearn the magic of loving attention to the Self.

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Weighting and Waiting (Part 2): Conversations with the Body

This entry was posted in Body Awareness, Depression, EFT, Lookism, Mary Pipher, Self Care, Tapping, Tapping and a culture of Love on by .

 

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Once we commit to making positive physical changes, several helpful concepts support our intentions.  The first concept concerns respecting and communicating with each aspect of the body we are conscious of judging negatively.  When we find ourselves grasping the flesh of the upper arm, or belly, or some other body area as we make a critical comment, it is helpful to think of this physical part as coming forward for peace making.  I say this because every specific part we reject about our flesh serves in some way to increase feelings of safety.  This may sound counter-intuitive, especially when we are convinced that it is wrong or bad to be “fat,” or “lazy,” or even ill.  However, when we reject even the tiniest part of the Self, we are in some way doing our very best to prevent similar rejection from others.  Many of us learn self criticism as young children and then make our way in the world repeating this criticism as a way of short circuiting those we feel might criticize us in similar fashion. Tapping can help us to resolve our fear of criticism from others and at the same time, support us in making the long and winding journey from head to heart.

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Weighting and Waiting: Those Last 5 (10/15) Pounds

This entry was posted in EFT, Emotional Eating, Empowerment, Expectations, Introversion/Extroversion, Learning Styles, Self Care, Tapping, Tapping and a culture of Love on by .

 

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Here in the west, one of the most challenging changes many of us undertake is the challenge to practice healthful, conscious eating choices.  Bombarded with invitations to indulge our sweet, fat, and salt teeth, we succumb to all manner of foods that may comfort us in the moment but that torment us after the fact.  No matter how diligent we are with exercise, we learn fairly early that no one outruns a bad diet.  Hence the diet industry’s colossal financial success in the face of it’s equally colossal failures with the majority of folks who do their level best to attain their healthiest body weight through one “guaranteed” diet system or another.  EFT can help us to make peace with our food behaviours, not as a magic bullet or with “fool-proof” meal plans, but as an aid to understanding what drives our ability to override our common sense and even our will power regarding what and how we eat.

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From: Learning, Loss, and Love – A Memoir and a Tool Kit

This entry was posted in Activism, Agency, Attachment Challenges, Barack Obama, Bernie Sanders, Donald Trump, Hillary Clinton, Jill Stein, Marion Woodman, Patriarchy, Robert Bly on by .

 

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One of the most healing tools we have at our disposal is our ability to tell our stories through art.  Some of us dance the pain out of our bodies and psyches, some of us paint, and some of us write.  While I have done all three, my most consistent mode of expression  is what I think of as “telling.”  My telling involves my journal and my keyboard and a long and tender commitment to becoming whole by embracing all my broken places.  As I’ve watched this current election contest spin out of control, my personal work has led me to see this election in the same archetypal terms that have helped me to understand my personal family dynamic.  Donald Trump, in my scheme of things, represents full blown patriarchy, a system that both knowingly and unconsciously exploits and “conquers” groups perceived as outsiders.  In our day, these groups include women, all people of colour, the GBLTQ community, people in poverty, and anyone who worships differently from the fundamentalist Christian faith designed by white patriarchs to keep these groups in physical shame and spiritual distress.

Because of my early childhood trauma, I came to address patriarchy full on when I was in my thirties and forties.  I understood I had to undertake this task in order to heal from my personal father wound and a lingering sense of victimization.  My father left me as a baby, my inner story went, and no one was there to “keep me safe, give me a name I could be proud of, teach me what it meant to be a woman . . . ,” and on and on.  Formal therapy, undertaken because of a terrifying depression that took hold of me after I had achieved a major goal and was living my dream, helped me to find the context in which patriarchy played out in my personal life and in the larger world.

Hillary Clinton, as the Democratic nominee for President of the US, is and will continue to call out of all the dark places patriarchy’s last rampages.  When we do our personal work, this contest takes on mythic proportions.  No matter whether we are for Trump, for Clinton, for Stein, or continuing to cling to Sanders as our “saviour,” these current unsettling political times bring forward the personal work we must do regarding our personal belief systems.  Do our beliefs shore up the status quo?  Do they energize woman hatred in subtle ways?  Do they continually play the race card?  Whatever we feel and think politically sheds light on the personal work we are invited to do.  If we do this work well – by examining and deconstructing our skewed beliefs – we will elect the most competent and experienced candidate; if we don’t, we’ll vote in reaction to our darkest fears and hatred.

With Barack Obama’s election came a wave of overt racism, the likes of which we have not seen since the fifties and sixties.  In like manner, we will no doubt see overt misogyny rise to the surface now that Clinton has secured the Democratic Party nomination.  There are signs, however, that patriarchy is crumbling.  Fox News has replaced Roger Ailes, a man who consistently behaved as Archetypal Patriarch, contaminating the work place with degrading requests and views of women and other groups even as he gave Donald Trump a platform from which to spread fear and disinformation.

Happily, as Dylan sings, these times they are a changing.  Eight years ago, Barack Obama reminded us, despite the obvious failings of an imperfect democratic system, we have reason to hope.  And now, Hillary Clinton has stepped forward as our lightning rod.  She took on the woman haters in 2008 and she takes them on now, with the difference that she is not taking them on alone.  In the interim many of us have worked through a lot of our unconscious prejudices, largely because we could see Barack Obama move through the racist wall of hate with such amazing courage, intelligence, and grace.  Now we get to watch Hillary Clinton do the same. What a privilege to be alive today, and to participate in our evolution out of patriarchy and into maturity, kindness, intelligence, and wisdom, these qualities creating an intersection of all empowered peoples.

If you are curious about what catalyzed my healing perspective regarding what I perceived as patriarchy’s out-sized privilege, please click the link below to read an excerpt from Learning, Loss, and Love, my unpublished memoir.

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Movement and the Healing Process – Part 2

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In my July 3, 2016 blog post, Movement and the Healing Process, I introduced the subject of conscious movement and its support of the healing process.  This blog post explores more deeply the effects movement can have on the traumas unconsciously stored in our bodies.  Sometimes we think of trauma in specific categories, for example, as physical, such as a sudden fall, or as emotional, as when someone we love is injured, or as intellectual, as when we learn a shocking truth.  However, these categories ignore the larger reality of who we are:  spiritual beings who simultaneously experience physically, emotionally, and intellectually the deep effects of trauma.  Because of the complex interweaving of our spiritual, physical, emotional, and intellectual reality, our healing process is best served by techniques that effect all these aspects of Self.  EFT is among the most effective, and empowering, of these techniques.

Please Note:  If you suspect you may be suffering from unhealed trauma (and most of us are), be sure to tap as you read this blog:  Put one of your open hands on your heart and with the fingers of the other hand, tap gently on the gamut point, that space on the back of the “heart hand” between the tendons of the baby and ring fingers.  Don’t worry about doing this perfectly:  perfection is not required in this practice.  If you set the intention to care for yourself during your reading by tapping gently and reverently as you proceed, you will do so.  Should your feelings become uncomfortably intense, stop reading and tap three times on the side of the hand, “Even though I feel unsafe, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.”  Then tap through the points on the head and body, starting with the Eye Brow points “I am safe; I am on my path; I can trust my body to release the sensations that make me feel unsafe; I am safe; I can trust my heart to understand and process the feelings that make me feel too unsafe to move forward; I am safe; I can trust my mind to reveal my negative thoughts and then process and release these; I am safe; I am safe; it is okay to feel good; the universe supports my wellness; the Earth supports my joy in being on my path; all is well in my body, my heart, my mind, and my spirit; all is well; all is well; I am safe.

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Movement and the Healing Process

This entry was posted in Empowerment, Healing through Movement, Inspired Aging on by .

 

Please Note:  Winter Blooms is an educational website in no way meant to replace building a relationship with a trained EFT practitioner, counselor, or therapist.  To find an EFT Practitioner, visit the AAMET website, the ACEP website, the EFT Universe website, the Tapping Solution website, or contact Jane for EFT coaching support.

As I deepen my dance with EFT personally and professionally, I am struck by the benefits of movement on our healing journeys.  Energies begin to shift and flow when we do something as simple as take a deep breath, stretch, or walk a short distance.  However, because the memories of trauma are stored in every cell of our bodies as well as in our energy field/aura, conscious movement, something we do with the intention of shifting energies, is much more effective than a random breath now and again.  For many trauma survivors, movement’s effectiveness is terrifying precisely because it can free memories we feel unprepared to process and ultimately integrate.  Our fear of the unknown, often experienced as free floating anxiety, keeps us locked, quite literally, in rigid physical positions that become our habitual way of defending against feeling.   Happily, EFT can help us to develop a gentle movement routine to release memories gradually and without the traumatizing energies we first experienced.

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Taking a Sacred Pause

This entry was posted in Sacred Space Making, Sacredness, Summer Solstice 2016, Tara Brach Radical Acceptance on by .

 

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Today in the northern hemisphere we are living through the very closest we on Earth get to Enlightenment.  The Summer Solstice,  the longest day and shortest night of the year, inspires all kinds of activities, from drum and dance circles and  community ceremonies to private moments in which the participant takes time to reflect on the metaphoric planting, growing, and harvesting we invite into our summer lives. This blog explores this individual way of honouring the Summer Solstice by taking time throughout today and the days to come to increase awareness of our inner gardens.

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Wooing Our Inner Spring

This entry was posted in Local Food Economies, Personal and Planetary Rejuvenation, The Economics of Happiness, The Spring Equinox on by .

 

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On March 20, at 12:30 am EDT, Spring 2016 officially arrived here in Vermont.  Known as the Spring Equinox, this seasonal event illustrates through its equal hours of day and night the importance of balance in our lives.  This seasonal change also reminds us to look for signs of our Inner Spring, those moments of delight when we discover, despite the debris of previous seasons, the green shoots of new growth in our ever evolving lives.

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