Category Archives: Ageism

Discovering Wisdom After A Fall – Part One

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Nothing can unsettle us like a bad fall.  Whether we fall because of carelessness, weather conditions, or the sudden giving out of a body part, falling grabs our attention and suggests we develop a relationship with the circumstances sooner rather than later.  As with fear, ignoring the emotions surrounding a sudden fall ensures they will persist.  Tapping for the pain, shock, and beliefs that follow a fall helps us to tune into our body’s wisdom as it teaches us how to relate to ourselves in more loving and positive ways.

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Positive Psychology and Tapping

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Please Note:  Winter Blooms is an educational website in no way meant to replace building a relationship with a trained EFT practitioner, counselor, or therapist.  To find an EFT Practitioner, visit the AAMET website, the Gary Craig website, the EFT Universe website, the Tapping Solution website, or contact Jane for EFT coaching support.

Martin Seligman’s latest book, Flourish:  A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well Being, describes exciting scientific evidence proving our ability to replace negative beliefs and thoughts with those that support well being.  You can experience Seligman’s enthusiasm for Positive Psychology first hand at:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e0LbwEVnfJA.    Those of us who have been using tapping as a means of daily self regulation know that the benefits of replacing negative beliefs and thoughts  with positive ones include joy and optimism; we have also discovered that joy and optimism contribute to our overall sense of well being while increasing our store of resilience.  Tapping builds what in Seligman’s Positive Psychology theory are measurable aspects of well being:  positive emotions, engagement, relationships, meaning, and achievement (PERMA).  Using the positive psychology exercises along with tapping strength our ability to live with resourcefulness, enthusiasm, kindness, and hope.

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Why Daily EFT/Tapping Matters

This entry was posted in A Walk in the Woods, Ageism, Daily EFT Practice, EFT, Sexism, Tapping on by .

 

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Sometimes just turning on the computer in the morning can feel like an ambush.  People shot at parades, terrorist plots, childish sniping among our politicians, and stock market fluctuations can make us feel vulnerable and even trigger our Fight, Flight, or Freeze response to events that happened yesterday or a week before, events over which we have absolutely no control.  Tapping daily helps to regulate responses to asynchronous media and real time situations that might otherwise lead to hyper-vigilant behaviours, those stress responses that exhaust the immune system and make us more susceptible to serious conditions such as heart disease and anxiety, conditions that are debilitating enough to lead to serious physical and emotional distress. Tapping on our specific fears helps us to return to centre and supports clarity and creativity when resolving personal and professional challenges.  And, because we share our energy field with everyone we meet, our centred calmness helps others to cultivate more clarity and creativity as well.

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Celebrating Girls and Women – A Farewell (for now) Post

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One of the most satisfying rewards of being a life coach is helping girls and women see how skilled, resourceful, fair, and creative they are.  In our culture, and in most cultures around the world, girls and women internalize the message of inferiority from the patriarchal systems that conflate authority with maleness.  One look at a list of presidents, CEOs, religious leaders, and judges proves this.  In the west, we have done great work in dismantling the beliefs that women and girls are less than, but as current “run like a girl” campaigns show, this work is generational and ongoing.  I created this blog to explore how energy psychology, more specifically Emotional Freedom Techniques or tapping, enriches and empowers its users.  One of the side effects of a year-and-a-half of diverse explorations is a growing sense of my own resourcefulness, flexibility, and commitment to social justice issues.  When I look around at my age cohorts – the vanguard of the Baby Boomers – and at our spiritual mothers, I see Maya Angelou, Vandana Shiva, Frida Kahlo, Margaret Mead, Oprah Winfrey, Mary Oliver, Alice Walker, Mary Wollstonecraft, Toni Morrison, Madeleine Kunin, Rosa Parks, Virginia Woolf, Angela Davis, Gloria Steinem, and countless others who continue to create the remarkable tapestry that is our collective feminist heritage.  These are the women, alive and dead, who fuel the remarkable work of creating a world hospitable to diversity, intelligence, creativity, and fairness.  It is a world I give thanks for every day.

This post is personal and celebratory.  If every girl and woman in the world participated in celebrating girls and women, we would create an ever expanding spiral of acknowledgement, from the earliest times to those seeds, bursting with purpose and love, waiting to be birthed into a world where all girls and women live in joy, freedom, purpose, and power.  To participate in this International Women’s Day, I offer the following personal celebration of but a few of the girls and women who have deepened my understanding of just how resourceful, intelligent, and empowering our global tribe of women and girls is.

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Transforming Ageist Thinking

This entry was posted in Ageism, Agency, Aging, Assertiveness, Mario Martinez, The Mind-Body Code on by .

 

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We hear a version of the following every day:  “I’m too old to change . . . to begin something new . . . to pursue a treasured dream.”    The words may be ours, but our beliefs about aging are very much rooted in family and cultural beliefs.  The over-the-hill syndrome is as toxic as any sexist remark and the sooner we relieve ourselves of the burden of belief in an inevitably medicalized old age, the happier and more productive and satisfied we’ll be.  How do we age joyfully, energetically, passionately, courageously?  Daily tapping can revolutionize our attitudes to aging, and, with psychologist Mario Martinez’s supportive research, help us to see ourselves as potentially successful centenarians instead of customers for adult diapers at seventy or eighty.

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Still Alice: A Look at Alzheimer’s Disease from the Inside

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At the heart of the film Still Alice is Julianne Moore’s portrayal of early onset Alzheimer’s Disease.  Told from the Linguistics Professor’s point of view, we see the world shrink and distort for her, as if she has boarded a tiny boat and is suddenly in the middle of the Atlantic.  It is a terrifying story and an important one, not only because it explores the ravages of personhood that is Alzheimer’s, but also because it allows us to imagine the tremendous loss family members and friends bear in watching this wasting disease erode the loving, competent, insightful, and forgiving person they once knew.  One thing I take issue with is the fictional story’s overworked irony of a linguistics professor losing her words; the true story of such a condition may be found in the film Iris, a biographical film acted with ravaging truth by Judi Dench, Kate Winslet, and Jim Broadbent about the life and intellectual disintegration of Iris Murdoch, celebrated Irish philosophical novelist.  This disease is horrifying because it robs its sufferers of the competence developed over a lifetime – whether one stays home with children, rises up the corporate ladder, makes one’s mark as an academic, or sells cars.  Alzheimer’s robs its sufferers of meaning:  how to use toothpaste . . . how to follow directions . . . how to find the way home from a familiar location and, eventually, . . . how to find the very meaning of home.

My husband and I touched hands frequently as we watched this film together.  We both wept for the imaginary Alice and for the fraying of family life the disease causes.  At the end, we remained seated, our fingers touching, our eyes moist.  It is a mature person’s film and a young person’s film; it has a heart and a soul that is deep and tender because it expands our understanding of what it is to care for someone who is losing the self to this condition we call Alzheimer’s as well as our understanding of the person who is losing the self.

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Tapping and “Wrinkle Porn”

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Recently one of our weekly Vermont papers ran a review of And So It Goes, a film about two people in their late sixties whose relationship evokes such scorn in the reviewer that he must coin a new phrase, “wrinkle porn”, to express his disgust with this film and others whose characters are beyond middle age and still interested in sex.  I haven’t seen the film, not because of the review, but because it came and went in the blink of an eye while blockbusters showcasing ever more cleverly manufactured gory deaths, explosions, and earth ravaging have run at local theatres for weeks.  This post, however, isn’t about film; it is about language that suggests we should be ashamed of our passions once we reach what our culture calls Old Age.  Tapping helps us to claim our passion – for sex and for life – at any age; it also helps us to neutralize the negative effects of words used cleverly, if inaccurately, to describe the waters we navigate in our sixties, seventies, and beyond.

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