Category Archives: Loving Kindness

The Longest Journey

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Many cultures, including our own, tell us  that the longest journey we ever make is the journey from head to heart.  Anyone who has spent time living in thinking mode knows the truth of this statement.  We spare ourselves the work of feeling when we crowd out our emotional responses with constant information gathering, analysis, and judgment.  The truth is, our emotions distress us, because they often come with an awareness of our vulnerabilities.  It feels much safer to give ourselves over to thinking about our lives and the world.  And yet, without the guidance of our hearts and emotions, we are nothing more than machine-like problem solvers and problem creators.  Given the number of crises we must address address today, it is easy to conclude that very few people have made the journey from head to heart.

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Creating a Kindness Practice in 2016

This entry was posted in Cynicism, EFT, It's a Wonderful Life, Loving Kindness, Maria Popova on by .

 

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Given the current state of the world, it is hard to believe that kindness is a virtue valued in every culture.  The effects of kindness are so profound that every generation of every society speaks of its vital importance through its sages.    In ancient China, Lao Tzu, author of the Tao Te Ching and founder of Taoism, told his world, “Kindness in words creates confidence.  Kindness in thinking creates profoundness.  Kindness in giving creates Love.”  In classical Greece, Plato admonished his fellow citizens to, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.”  Much closer to us in time and geography, George Sand, nineteenth century French novelist and essayist, instructed her readers to, “Guard well within yourself that treasure, kindness.  Know how to give without hesitation, how to lose without regret, how to acquire without meanness.”  We are all recipients of kindness at one time or another, and each of us knows first hand that kindness is what makes life both meaningful and joyful.  With this in mind, I’m suggesting we all develop a Kindness Practice in 2016.

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Voicelessness and Sexual Assault

This entry was posted in After Care, Assertiveness, Beliefs, Loving Kindness, PTSD, Resilience, Shame, Spiritual Rehydration, Tapping, Trust, vulnerability on by .

 

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Last week, in the post on sexual assault’s afterlife, I touched on my grandmother’s vocal response to the event along with my own inability to make a sound during the assault.  It is easy to assume a four-year-old child is unable to confront a sexual predator, but this is not always the case.  Some children scream, cry, and fight physically, while others, like me, manifest sudden voicelessness and physical paralysis.  This is the manifestation of the Freeze aspect of the the Fight, Flight, or Freeze Stress Response.  During sudden trauma, we sometimes fight, we sometimes take flight, and, as happened to me, we sometimes freeze.  Daily tapping, along with healthy sleep habits, eating habits, thinking habits, physical movement habits, meditation habits, and social habits, can build resilience into our lives that helps the Stress Response do the work it is meant to do – protect us from actual danger.

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Tapping and Speaking our Truth

This entry was posted in Courage, Deeper Understanding, Gentleness, Loving Kindness, Speaking our Truth, Tapping on by .

 

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Sometimes we are faced with challenging situations at home, at social events, and at work, that require we leave our comfort zone to speak an unpopular truth.  Situations in which our values are challenged run the gamut from personal agonies over telling a friend the truth of our feelings regarding a specific situation to addressing a nursing home situation to protect the health and well being of residents and their family members.  These situations require deep soul searching, loving kindness, and moral courage.  Tapping can help us to make more informed, emotionally intelligent decisions regarding how to speak our truth in family, social, or workplace situations that trouble us.

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