Failure – Winter Blooms

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Many people are introduced to Tapping with expectations of experiencing the “one-minute wonder” that put Gary Craig and the first EFT practitioners on the Energy Psychology map. It is an unfortunate expectation, since some of EFT’s most valuable results manifest without fanfare and over a relatively long period of time. The yearning for instant change is often true for the young and eager students who come to the protocol wanting to transform their lives in fifteen minutes, or even an hour, without the deep reflection that contributes to our collective store of wisdom.

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Failure can be a wonderful teacher, especially when we tap without seeming to shift specific issues. Failure prompts us to think and intuit outside our usual patterns of cause and effect. One of my favourite phrases when tapping on a particularly stubborn issue is “If I need to fail at understanding and resolving this challenge now, what are failure’s gifts?” Seeing failure as a gift giver is a positive reframe that prompts us to look for the hidden benefits – what Gary Craig has called the Secondary Gains – in what appear to be negative situations. We may be close to understanding something that requires special emotional support and the time provided by apparent failure allows for that support to materialize in our lives. When our tapping failures are seen in this way, EFT becomes a process rather than a product, a journey rather than a destination; it takes the pressure off our problem solving efforts and brings into our awareness helpful forces beyond our control that support our intention to live authentically and with love.

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